I used to believe that transformation had to be hard. That healing required years of therapy, endless willpower, and pushing through resistance until something finally clicked. Then I worked with transformational guide Alexus Rae Lopez and discovered it’s not all in your head—or is it? Rewiring your subconscious for real change completely transformed my understanding of personal growth—and revealed just how much healing I still needed to do.

In my recent conversation with Alexus on the INHABIT podcast, we dove deep into why traditional approaches to change often fall short—and how working with your unconscious mind can create rapid, lasting transformation while uncovering layers of healing you didn’t even know existed.

The Uncomfortable Truth About What Lives Beneath the Surface

Here’s what most people don’t realize: your conscious mind only processes about 126 bits of information per second, while your unconscious mind takes in anywhere from 2 million to 2 billion bits. As Alexus explained, “We think we’re living a conscious experience… but our unconscious mind is actually running 95 to 99% of our lived life and experiences.”

This means that no matter how motivated you feel or how much personal development work you think you’ve done, there are likely deep-rooted patterns and unhealed wounds operating beneath your awareness, quietly sabotaging your efforts.

My Personal Breakthrough: What I Thought I Knew vs. Reality

I’ll be honest—I thought I had done a lot of healing work. Years of therapy, countless books, workshops, retreats. I considered myself pretty self-aware. Then I experienced a two-day breakthrough session with Alexus, and I realized how much I didn’t know about what was still running in my subconscious.

Using techniques like NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and MER (Mental and Emotional Release), we uncovered layers of limiting beliefs, unprocessed emotions, and inherited patterns that I had no conscious awareness of. Some traced back to childhood experiences I’d forgotten, others to generational trauma, and some even appeared to stem from past lives.

The best way I can describe the before and after? It’s like my brain had been running too many programs and browser tabs simultaneously, causing everything to move at a glacial pace. After our session, I felt like I could finally breathe—but I also realized just how much baggage I’d been unconsciously carrying.

The Humbling Reality of Deep Healing Work

What struck me most about working with Alexus was how much healing I still needed, despite thinking I was “pretty healed.” As we moved through releasing anger, shame, guilt, fear, and their various shades, I kept going back to earlier and earlier memories—some I’d never consciously accessed before.

“Your unconscious mind only shows you what you’re ready to heal,” Alexus reminded me. The fact that these deep-seated patterns were finally surfacing wasn’t a sign that I was broken. It was a sign that I was finally ready to do the real work.

This is why it’s not all in your head—or is it? The physical symptoms, the relationship patterns, the business blocks—they’re real. But their roots often lie in subconscious programming that’s been running the show without our knowledge.

The Science Behind Why Surface-Level Work Isn’t Enough

What makes rewiring your subconscious for real change so powerful isn’t just the emotional release—it’s addressing the actual source. Alexus shared a fascinating insight: “We actually have an entire new body biologically because of how our cells produce and reproduce. We have a new body every nine to 12 months.”

But here’s the catch: if your unconscious mind keeps coding those new cells with the same limiting beliefs and unhealed trauma, you’ll keep recreating the same problems. When you shift the programming at the subconscious level, you’re literally giving your body new instructions for how to rebuild itself.

The Three-Part Alignment System That Changes Everything

According to Alexus, lasting transformation requires alignment between three parts of yourself:

• Conscious Mind: Your awareness and decision-making
• Unconscious Mind: Your stored patterns, beliefs, and behaviors
• Higher Self: Your connection to source/universal energy

“When we have these three parts in alignment, that’s when we can start creating the outcomes that we know that we’re destined for,” Alexus explained. But getting there often means facing parts of ourselves we’ve been avoiding or didn’t even know existed.

How MER Revealed My Hidden Healing Needs

The MER process follows three key steps, and each one revealed more areas that needed attention:

1. Root Cause Identification: Going back to the very first instance of each limiting belief or negative emotion. For me, this meant confronting childhood experiences, family patterns, and even what appeared to be past-life trauma.

2. Energy Transformation: Replacing the negative emotional charge with learnings while preserving the wisdom gained. This showed me how much emotional baggage I’d been carrying without realizing it.

3. Future Integration: Keeping your mind focused on what you want and taking aligned action from this new, cleared state. This felt both liberating and overwhelming as I realized how much space had been freed up.

The Ongoing Journey of Subconscious Healing

Working with Alexus taught me that healing isn’t a destination—it’s an ongoing process of peeling back layers. Even after our intensive session, I continue to notice patterns and reactions that signal more areas needing attention.

But here’s what’s different now: instead of feeling frustrated by this discovery, I feel grateful. As Alexus said, “Being triggered nowadays in my life, I’m like, oh, this is great, because this is like, what are we releasing here? What are we rewiring here?”

Key Takeaways for Your Own Healing Journey

• You likely have more healing to do than you realize—and that’s not a failure, it’s human

• Your unconscious mind only reveals what you’re ready to process—if something is coming up, you can handle it

• Surface-level work has its place, but deep transformation requires subconscious rewiring

• Triggers are actually gifts—they’re showing you exactly what still needs healing

• The body keeps the score—but it also keeps the solution when you know how to access it

Why This Matters for Your Success and Wellbeing

Whether you’re an entrepreneur hitting invisible income ceilings, struggling with chronic health issues, or simply feeling stuck despite doing “all the right things,” MER can offer a path to deeper healing.

Instead of managing symptoms or pushing through resistance, you can identify and clear the root programming that’s creating these patterns in the first place.

Ready to Discover What Needs Healing?

If this resonates with you, listen to Episode 200 on Apple or Spotify and explore this work further. Alexus offers breakthrough sessions both virtually and in-person. She’s also working on a book for women ready to evolve with clarity, confidence, and commitment.

You can connect with her on Instagram at @alexus_rae_. (This is where she personally handles all bookings and shares more insights about subconscious transformation.)

Remember: discovering you have more healing to do isn’t a setback—it’s the beginning of real freedom. Sometimes the most courageous thing you can do is acknowledge what’s been hiding beneath the surface. It’s time to finally give it the attention it deserves.

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